tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990011610147408001.post1223233192021053564..comments2022-12-13T00:23:11.831+13:00Comments on Habitually happy: Balancing acceptance of low moods with efforts to feel betterKaye McLarenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01416979782710331646noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990011610147408001.post-82293759027012646842013-06-10T16:41:08.177+12:002013-06-10T16:41:08.177+12:00My brother suggested I might like this blog.
He wa...My brother suggested I might like this blog.<br />He was totally right. This post actually made my day.<br />You can not imagine just how much time I had spent <br />for this information! Thanks!<br /><br />Here is my blog - <a href="http://northfacejacketsoutlet.info/video-recorders-help-to-make-the-tv-occasion-better.htm" rel="nofollow">northfacejacketsoutlet.info</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990011610147408001.post-46271014451684811932009-08-29T11:29:39.224+12:002009-08-29T11:29:39.224+12:00OK! The biological stuff is a bit beyond me altho...OK! The biological stuff is a bit beyond me although it's interesting. I guess it could be the old, reptilian brain overheating when you can't stop feeling a certain way. However I don't tend to worry about that too much. I don't care that much about why it happens, just about what works to stop it. The big issue for me is that if one spends all one's time trying to control how one thinks and feels it can make one feel worse - much worse! I'll do a post on that next week.Kaye McLarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01416979782710331646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990011610147408001.post-81591646390428137232009-08-27T15:07:58.304+12:002009-08-27T15:07:58.304+12:00Yes, Mr F, watching or observing your thoughts ins...Yes, Mr F, watching or observing your thoughts instead of getting mixed up in them is a great technique. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle is a good one for learning more about this.Kirsten Cliffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15653824686221076403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990011610147408001.post-64295837365827314722009-08-26T18:46:26.613+12:002009-08-26T18:46:26.613+12:00I agree that this balance is tricky and critical.
...I agree that this balance is tricky and critical.<br /><br />Like Kirsten, I think the keyword is indeed 'when'. WHEN's the right time for acceptance, and WHEN's the right time for action?<br /><br />When it comes to the acceptance phase, I think it helps to observe your brain, as if it were something exterior to your mind. I think it helps to observe one's insecurities and anger, as if they were unwanted luggage on a coveyor belt: you watch them move but you don't grab hold of them!<br /><br />I also think it would help to know the mechanism that frustration and anxiety involve in the brain. I would help to just acknowledge that 'my amydgala is overactivated, consuming a lot of glucose, it will remain so for the next 20 minutes. This is my reptilian brain that's overreacting, not me, there's nothing else I can do. It's bound to subside.'<br /><br />If it's my reptilian brain playing tricks, then it's no longer my fault: there is less room for guilt. If it's my reptilian brain that's overheating, then there's nothing else I can do. So, let's just let go!<br /><br /><br />I just threw two biological words that I don't even understand. I just wished someone explained to me in lay terms, what the conveyor belt biologically looks like...<br /><br />Could you do that Kaye?<br /><br />Sorry for too long a comment!<br /><br />Thanks for this good topic.<br /><br />F.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990011610147408001.post-70819088565972872042009-08-26T09:06:03.585+12:002009-08-26T09:06:03.585+12:00Glad you enjoyed it. I found it quite fascinating...Glad you enjoyed it. I found it quite fascinating watching my mind pretty much operate on automatic as I drove the car, walked the dog etc. That's down to years of doing it, I guess, but the basic techniques still work even if you have to think about them more consciously. I think the key is becoming aware that your mood is slipping before it's completely gone. Knowing what works best for you is also useful, and that comes from trying lots of different things.Kaye McLarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01416979782710331646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990011610147408001.post-50350301165367664472009-08-25T13:37:44.350+12:002009-08-25T13:37:44.350+12:00Thanks, Kaye. Really interesting to read about. Yo...Thanks, Kaye. Really interesting to read about. Your years of experience in managing depression and happiness are so valuable for those that want some insight to help themselves or others. I like how you surrendered to your feelings but then also knew when they were overwhelming you, and then employing techniques to correct this and set you back to a more balanced state. You're book is going to be a winner!Kirsten Cliffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15653824686221076403noreply@blogger.com